Do not say: I am just like that. Be Better
“Our lives improve only when we take chances – and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.” ~ Walter Anderson
We all love ourselves the way we are. This is a good thing as we have to spend all of our life with ourselves. We all are special. We all have combination of unique qualities and we know about them. But sometimes we are so lost in self love that we treat our weakness as qualities too.
We do certain things that are not good but we make excuse to hide them. Why? We do not want to see our self as a bad personality. There is one most commonly used sentence where we hide our shortcomings. It is:
“I am just like that.”
Suppose I am short-tempered. I got angry at someone and later I apologised just by saying “Sorry but I am just like that”.
I am talking to someone and get too emotional in the conversation. He said something against me and it hurt me more than it should be. I ended the relationship and my excuse to myself is “I am just like that”.
I have an exam next week. But I did not study whole week and the day before exam I asked my friend for help. He asked me why I have not started earlier. My answer was “I could not concentrate on study so early. What can I do? I am just like that”
I have planned to do something useful or productive last weekend. But I passed all my days watching TV and then excused myself “Yeah I am lazy but whatever I am just like that.”
Sometimes we are too shy to talk to anyone. Sometimes we are so afraid to take initiative in our job. Sometimes we are afraid to speak in public. But we hide all this under the sentence “I am just like that”.
Whenever you say “I am just like that”, it means you are accepting as you are and there is no need to change something about it. In this way, we are supporting our shortcomings and they keep growing.
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” ~ Tony Robbins
If we do not know we have a problem, how can we think about any solution?
What can I do about it?
Nobody is perfect. But we should keep observing ourselves and striving for creating a better self than yesterday.
We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses too. Now the question is how many of us knows our weaknesses and how many of us works on that. Most of the times we want to remain the same as we are, because we fear change. We want to change the world but never try to change ourselves.
“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” ~ Carol Burnett
See yourself from a different angle:
It is not easy for us to identify our faults but only you can identify and take charge of them. You cannot always rely on what others saying about you but it is very helpful sometimes.
See yourself from other person’s eye. Then think about the things that you do not like about yourself. Do you like to be heard yourself as short-tempered, lazy, or shy? Do you want to be treated all your life with those tags? Of course you do not.
Today, make a List of the at least 5 habits that are stopping you from growing. And set a deadline when you want to be free from them. Life is all about creating a better self. Keep growing yourself, you will feel amazing at the end when you see the difference.
From now on before saying “I am just like that” think for while. Think, do you always want to stay like that? Or this is not good and you want do something about it. Then work on them and be proud because you have become better than yourself. Enjoy.
“For things to change, you’ve got to change. For things to get better, you’ve got to get better.” ~ Jeff Olson